Finding a life partner in today’s world seems to be difficult for many individuals. Imagine the qualities of your dream partner. Now, create a questionnaire in order to paint a vivid picture of them in your mind. When you finish you will have a list of qualities that you would like in your future partner and then when you meet he or she you will be able to recognize them. There are many ways to find your partner to help you live a complete and happy life.
Here are 10 questions to help you discover your future partner’s qualities, but there are countless others that may be more tailored to your specific needs and wants in a mate. If you ask the right questions, then you will get the right answers. Think about your answers to these questions and be honest!
1. Does he/she make me feel special?
2. How does he/she show affection?
3. Do you have a shared vision of your life together, ex: faith, friendship, and children?
4. If he/she never changed would you be content with their flaws and faults?
5. His/her most important quality is ?
6. How does he/she treat me in public when we go out?
7. The best thing about him/her is ?
8. Do you love their character more than their career, or looks or money?
9. Does he/she do what they say when they say they will?
10. How does he/she treat their family?
Now let’s discuss the individual qualities. Any relationship is a mirror of who we are, so we must first understand our own reflection. The law of attraction is very important here. We attract whatever we project, particularly in the area of relationships.
For any relationship to endure, both individuals need to be walking in the same direction and headed for the same destination. For example, if you are thinking long term, a question that could be asked is where do you hope to see yourself 10 years from now? You need to find a partner who is going to be in that same place. That means that as you search for your partner you need to think about the kind of person they will need to be now in order to be there with you in the future. Many times as individuals we only think about the NOW factor, how they make us feel right NOW and we do not factor in the FUTURE or LONG-TERM.
The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with you might share your completeness. — Neale Donald Walsch
Now write down the qualities YOU will bring to the relationship. So far I have talked about how you should write a list of qualities for your future partner and I have discussed your individual qualities. Now let’s move on to the last part of identifying your partner’s qualities. When you meet someone, how will you know if they have those qualities?
You should write down examples of how they will express those qualities and what actions and behaviors they will demonstrate.
For example:
Question: How does he treat me around others when we go out?
Qualities: He is respectful, attentive and nice.
Behavior: He is attentive and considerate to me, and kind to others around us.
If you worked through each part of the steps discussed above, then you should have a pretty clear idea of the kind of person your dream partner is. You should know how you want them to look and act, what they believe and value, what kind of job they have and where they want to go with their lives.
It may have taken you some time to think about it, but if you have done everything properly, it will save you from dating a lot of people who come nowhere close to your ideal partner.
If you received value from this report and need assistance in creating a healthy, balanced, and fulfilling relationship then contact me, Coach Monica Hall at 415-236-2874 (2FO-CUS4) and/or mhall@catchyourvision.com. I’m waiting to hear from YOU!
Monica Hall
Relationship Vision Coach
Catch Your Vision
